ADDoration Ministries
Friday, December 15, 2017
God is SO GOOD; although I have ADD.

Why don't we hear others

WHY DON'T WE HEAR OTHERS?

If you want to listen to really hear what others say, make sure you're not a:

MIND READER. You'll hear little or nothing, as you think, "What is this person really thinking or feeling?"

REHEARSER. Your mental tryouts for "Here's what I'll say next" tune out the speaker.

FILTERER. Some call this selective listening -- hearing only what you want to hear.

DREAMER. Drifting off during a face to face conversation can lead to an embarrassing "What did you say?" or "Could you repeat that?"

IDENTIFIER. If you refer everything you hear to your experience, you probably didn't really hear what was said.

COMPARER. When you get sidetracked assessing the messenger, you're sure to miss the message.

DERAILER. Changing the subject too quickly soon tells others that you're not interested in anything they have to say.

SPARRER. You hear what's said, but quickly belittle it or discount it. That puts you in the same class as the derailer.

PLACATER. Agreeing with everything you hear, just to be nice or to avoid conflict, does not mean you're a good listener.

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From Toastmaster Magazine, July 1999. Toastmasters International reprinted this with permission from Communication Briefings, Vol. 18 No. 2 Source: The Writing Lab, Department of English, Purdue University, West Lafayette, Indiana

Proverbs 18:13 He who answers before listening — that is his folly and his shame.

<*(((>< your ADD brother in the Risen Christ,
Lester Hemphill
Founder of ADDoration Ministries